Jenny from Perth writes – my partner is the life of the party, women and men adore him. But at home, he gets angry at us for the silliest reasons and never nice words me or our kids, always putting us down. Should I stay or leave him?

Nothing is more important to me than my wife and family. I love them. To date my wife loves me enough to see the good in me rather than only the bad. I try for her.

Be blessed.

Unless actual harm is occurring I'd ask you to stay. We men need our wives and families. Really we do.

I told my 13-year-old daughter that she should never start a fight, but has my permission to end it. She got suspended for ending a fight that some other girl picked with her by hitting her then retreating. How do I handle the school’s response?

So are we to be consigned to the kerb by the people who are supposed to love us? I can't understand the why of who I am at all.

In no way am I saying that physical abuse is acceptable. Don't get me wrong on that. I also don't put anyone down because I love these people.

It's actually hard even though I adore my wife and our family. Why I have often asked myself? It makes no sense really. There's no one to ask.

I caught my husband of 20 years looking at inappropriate pics of women on TikTok or Instagram. I'm not sure., but when I told him he got mad and made excuses of why they popped up. I then told him how I've snuck on his phone and saw what he's been looking at . We had a horrible big fight. I asked him why did he even marry me when I see the type he likes . Nothing like me, I'm petite, blonde and blue eyes. These women are dark haired dark eyed and have curvy bodies, large breasts, etc. I just don't feel the same about him after this. I can't get over this

Hello Jenny. A lot of men are like your man. I myself am similar although out of love I try and moderate myself.

I've read that decreasing testosterone can be a cause. I took some herbal remedy but only grew some man boobs. Little else seemed to change. The boobs did fade away after I finished the tablets.

It's just that my mouth speaks before my brain thinks at random moments. My wife does remind me from time to time. I say sorry and yes dear frequently.

What ended your relationship with your best friend?

At some point you do need to find a quiet moment to have sensible chat with your man. Point out how his words are hurting you and the family. Ask him if he realises what's happening. That none of you are enjoying it. See what he says?